Helping Churches to Better Handle Cases of Abuse

Jim Newheiser

Jim Newheiser

While church leaders should do all they can to restore broken marriages, they sometimes fail victims of abuse by not offering them the protection and support they need. When we learn of cases of abuse, we need to be proactive in confronting the guilty party and compassionate as we seek to help and protect victims. Continue reading

Humility

Andrea Lee

Andrea Lee

It’s humbling to admit, but I almost didn’t make it to my first biblical counseling classes because of anxiety. What began as apprehensiveness about the quality of my work and my classroom performance morphed into full-blown anxiety about how I could possibly be a biblical counselor if fear of man so gripped my heart. Little did I know that God would use my sin as the context for revealing the gracious ways He uses others in the fight for holiness. Continue reading

Manipulative Repentance

Brad Hambrick

Brad Hambrick

The recognition that there are healthy and unhealthy forms of repentance is both common sense and biblical (2 Corinthians 7:8-13). On this everyone agrees; secular and sacred. The difficulty is in discerning disingenuous repentance. Mature and discerning people can witness the same conversation and walk away with distinctly different impressions about whether a given expression of remorse represents genuine repentance, sorrow for being caught, or a tactic to gain relational leverage.

In this post, I hope to accomplish two things. First, I will attempt to clarify two common misperceptions about manipulation. Second, I will discuss a series of phrases commonly used in repentance which can be red flags that the remorse being expressed will not lead to healthy relational restoration. Continue reading

Responding to the Shame after a Relapse into Sin

Jeff Forrey

Jeff Forrey

Jim’s wife of eight years, Rachael, was shocked to discover he’d been regularly viewing Internet porn for about two months. In all their years together, he had seemed like an upright Christian man with strong morals. After Jim had started meeting with their pastor, Paul, he’d stopped viewing Internet porn. So, Rachael and Pastor Paul were surprised and dismayed all over again when they learned Jim had gone to an adult bookstore to purchase pornographic material in print, instead!

Suppose, however, that Jim reports incredible shame over his behavior at this point. Continue reading