It’s humbling to admit, but I almost didn’t make it to my first biblical counseling classes because of anxiety. What began as apprehensiveness about the quality of my work and my classroom performance morphed into full-blown anxiety about how I could possibly be a biblical counselor if fear of man so gripped my heart. Little did I know that God would use my sin as the context for revealing the gracious ways He uses others in the fight for holiness. Continue reading
The recognition that there are healthy and unhealthy forms of repentance is both common sense and biblical (2 Corinthians 7:8-13). On this everyone agrees; secular and sacred. The difficulty is in discerning disingenuous repentance. Mature and discerning people can witness the same conversation and walk away with distinctly different impressions about whether a given expression of remorse represents genuine repentance, sorrow for being caught, or a tactic to gain relational leverage.
In this post, I hope to accomplish two things. First, I will attempt to clarify two common misperceptions about manipulation. Second, I will discuss a series of phrases commonly used in repentance which can be red flags that the remorse being expressed will not lead to healthy relational restoration. Continue reading
Jim’s wife of eight years, Rachael, was shocked to discover he’d been regularly viewing Internet porn for about two months. In all their years together, he had seemed like an upright Christian man with strong morals. After Jim had started meeting with their pastor, Paul, he’d stopped viewing Internet porn. So, Rachael and Pastor Paul were surprised and dismayed all over again when they learned Jim had gone to an adult bookstore to purchase pornographic material in print, instead!
Suppose, however, that Jim reports incredible shame over his behavior at this point. Continue reading
Must a woman admit adultery of long ago? Continue reading
Confessions are usually healing for both the offended and the offender. Most of the time, confessions are heartfelt expressions of the repentance that God has granted. A healing confession is redemptive in that it has the power to “buy back” … Continue reading
Some conflicts are so egregious, believers can actually find reconciliation and forgiveness a distasteful calling. When a professing believer has left a community and caused a great deal of harm and has lived unrepentant for a long time, his repentance and return is often met with anything but a joyful heart. Yet, Scripture guides the church in how to respond in this type of difficult situation. Continue reading
We often hear Christians today talking about “brokenness.” But are we using the term biblically? In response to this question, Bob Kellemen provides 4 reflections on the word “brokenness.” Continue reading