The Instant Gratification Trap in Counseling, Part 2

Shannon Kay McCoy

Shannon Kay McCoy

Delayed gratification does not come easily for most people. It is choosing to resist present comfort for long-term pleasure. The Christian life is a life of deferred gratification. Jesus teaches us to not store up treasures on earth, but to store up treasures in heaven (Matt. 6:19-21). Continue reading

The Implications of Misplaced Identity

Lee Lewis

Lee Lewis

The idea of identity is one of those nebulous concepts that can be hard to understand. Yet, in my pastoral and counseling ministries I consistently deal with the implications of how people identify themselves. I have found there to be much confusion on this topic and a myriad of opinions in our culture concerning this matter. Continue reading

Emphasizing the Identity of Jesus

Rob Green

The last few years have seen a significant rise in the importance of helping a counselee understand his or her identity IN Christ. We have welcomed (okay, many of us) this emphasis with open arms recognizing that this is an important emphasis in the Scriptures. Practically speaking, when a person understands their identity they are able to love because they are loved by Jesus, they are able to respond with grace because that is how Jesus responds to them, and they are able to be compassionate and merciful because that is what they receive from Jesus. Continue reading

On Being a Better Lover

Steve Timmis

On Being a Better Lover

This article shows what our identity, purpose, and function are as believers and applies them to the thorny, and very personal, issue of introversion showing how it frees us to be the better lovers of God and others we were created to be. Continue reading

The Big Question of Grief: Who Am I Now?

Brad Hambrick

Brad Hambrick

Grief Series - The Big Question of Grief - Who Am I Now

For a long time I put it in the basket of emotional struggles. I grouped it together with things like depression, anxiety, anger, and apathy. Then, as I was reading Christian Counseling: A Comprehensive Guide by Gary Collins, I noticed that he classified grief as an identity struggle. While I disagree with Dr. Collins in several ways about counseling, this reclassification of grief has been immensely helpful. Continue reading