Why Is Friendship So Hard?

Jonathan Holmes

Since the publication of The Company We Keep (TCWK), it’s been encouraging to see more being written on the topic of friendship here at the BCC. One of the ongoing questions I’ve received since writing TCWK is in regards to the difficulty of forming friendships in the church. Continue reading

Weekend Resource: Relationally Wise Pastoral Care

Kyle Johnston

Kyle Johnston

Do you want to build stronger relationships? Become a more valued influence in the lives of those you love and shepherd? Be able to navigate the uncomfortable tensions and inevitable conflicts that often occur in pastoral care? In short, would you like to become more skilful in your relationships? If you’re like me, the answer is a clear and unambiguous “Yes!” But while I know I need more godly skill (wisdom) in all my relationships, it’s often quite hard to translate that desire into real-life relational skills. How do I actually become a wiser counselor, a wiser pastor, and a wiser friend? Continue reading

When Our Theology Stifles Our Compassion

Marie Notcheva

Marie Notcheva

When our Theology Stifles Our Compassion

It is far more difficult to patiently support, silently love, and unceasingly pray than to exegete a passage of Scripture. We need to seek the Holy Spirit regularly for discernment in our approach, in order to be truly competent counselors and compassionate friends. Continue reading

Must We Argue Again?

Sherry Allchin

Sherry Allchin

Must We Argue Again

So why does anyone keep arguing when we know it is wrong, and it is counter-productive? Titus 3 begins with a discussion about authorities and respect for them, about being peaceable, gentle, humble instead of hateful, self-centered. Is it not our selfish desires that become the dictators, telling us what to argue for and to keep going until we get what we want? Continue reading

Cultivating Gospel-Centered Friendships

Shannon Kay McCoy

Shannon Kay McCoy

Cultivating Gospel-Centered Friendships

God gives the gift of friendships. The gospel is the power of God that transforms our relationships into gospel-centered friendships. Christians are to glorify God as we connect with others. We are to demonstrate grace, mercy, compassion, love and forgiveness in relationships. Friendships must be cultivated by being saturated with the gospel of Jesus Christ. Continue reading

Toy Story, Proverbs and Friendship

Jonathan Holmes

The Proverbs are a great place to start for learning about friendship. They provide a rich portrait of biblical friendship. Over the balance of the book, four distinct qualities of biblical friendship come to the forefront: constancy, carefulness, candor, and counsel. Continue reading