We Are Equally Sinful. We Are Not All Equally Broken or Toxic.

Brad Hambrick

Brad Hambrick

Admittedly, this post will be as uncomfortable as its title. But, then again, counseling is about very uncomfortable things. The concern I want to discuss is the tendency to assume that biblical principles like those found in I Corinthians 10:13 mean that all our struggles carry the same weight. The unintended consequence can be that abusive relationships receive the same counsel as garden-variety arguments and instances of low impulse control receive the same guidance as manic episodes.

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Distinguishing Between Guilt and Guilt

Robert Jones

Robert Jones

Skilled cardiologists make sharp distinctions in diagnosing a possible wide spectrum of heart problems. Skilled counselors as soul physicians must do the same. Let’s consider three biblical distinctions concerning guilt. Continue reading

Responding to the Shame after a Relapse into Sin

Jeff Forrey

Jeff Forrey

Jim’s wife of eight years, Rachael, was shocked to discover he’d been regularly viewing Internet porn for about two months. In all their years together, he had seemed like an upright Christian man with strong morals. After Jim had started meeting with their pastor, Paul, he’d stopped viewing Internet porn. So, Rachael and Pastor Paul were surprised and dismayed all over again when they learned Jim had gone to an adult bookstore to purchase pornographic material in print, instead!

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Freedom from Regret

Paul Tautges

Paul Tautges

Irreversible decisions are the hardest to live with. You know you’ve done wrong, but it is too late to undo it. Now you must live with the consequences, whatever they may be. But how? Do you beat yourself up forever? Do you live in a state of habitual sullenness? Do you become bitter toward others or God? The pain of regret and the constant nagging of a conscience that knows you have sinned and been foolish have the potential of crippling you forever. Is this how it must be, or is there a better way? Continue reading

Getting Up after a Fall

Lucy Ann Moll

Lucy Ann Moll

Sinful choices can become a slippery slope too. One sinful choice may slide into another, reminiscent of Psalm 1:1; then the Christian may face a problem she helped create: a marital separation, an addiction, a lost job, anxiety, depression, bitterness. Her problem might cause enough angst to bring her to your counseling office, looking for relief. But relief isn’t the real answer is it? Relief is among the world’s counterfeits for mankind’s greatest and truest need—the gospel. Continue reading

“Thanksgiving” –Radical Surgery!

Rick Horne

This short story is not intended to be a model for counseling; nor is it a picture of all that is needed for counsel in the lives of people with such trauma. But it does illustrate how thanksgiving is a powerful tool in God’s arsenal of weapons for our fight against the sin that comes out of us and that comes at us. Continue reading

Friday’s 5 to Live By

The BCC

The BCC

Friday's 5 To Live By

Each Friday our BCC staff links you to the top 5 biblical counseling and Christian living blog posts of the week—posts that provide robust, rich, and relevant insights for living. Continue reading