My Five Counseling Goals for Session One

Robert Jones

Robert Jones

Effective biblical counseling begins with a successful first session and a successful first session requires five clear, wise, comprehensive goals: warmly welcoming my counselee, knowing my counselee, giving Christ-centered hope to my counselee, proposing a counseling plan for my counselee, and encouraging my counselee to commit to counseling. Continue reading

Basics for Discipleship in Suffering

Andrea Lee

Andrea Lee

Talking to someone who is suffering can be disorienting. The person’s emotions and interpretations rush at you. And the sufferer’s pain guarantees you will need to use great care as you interact. But there is opportunity in trials because they give direction and shape to discipleship. This particular trial and this specific suffering become the immediate context in which discipleship takes place. Here are three basics to remember when the opportunity comes. Continue reading

Getting Help Is Different Than Venting

Sacha Alexandre Mendes

Sacha Alexandre Mendes

You may have heard a counselee or friend say, “I just need to get this off my chest!” or “I need to talk to someone or I am going to explode!” These sentiments are common as people struggle and find some relief in expressing their pain. Without a doubt, a compassionate Christian should be ready to listen to another struggling believer. No one can provide help without having a loving, listening attitude. However, we should consider moving from offering mere emotional relief through passive listening to providing actual help through loving instruction. There are some biblical reasons why merely venting is not enough and is even harmful. Consider three important truths to teach your counselee who believes that getting help is equivalent to finding someone to listen to their venting. Continue reading