Picture a classroom of 9-year-olds. One boy slumps low in his chair, sneaking peeks at Snapchat. Nearby three girls in matching Katy Perry t-shirts steal glances at the “weird” new girl. The “weird” girl looks at the rain, her stare blank. Could one of these children one day fit the label of personality disorder? Perhaps. However, the Bible doesn’t use the term personality disorder. In fact, Scripture says the point of counseling is change in personality and behavior. So what does a biblical counselor do with a personality disorder label? Continue reading
Effective biblical counseling begins with a successful first session and a successful first session requires five clear, wise, comprehensive goals: warmly welcoming my counselee, knowing my counselee, giving Christ-centered hope to my counselee, proposing a counseling plan for my counselee, and encouraging my counselee to commit to counseling. Continue reading
Talking to someone who is suffering can be disorienting. The person’s emotions and interpretations rush at you. And the sufferer’s pain guarantees you will need to use great care as you interact. But there is opportunity in trials because they give direction and shape to discipleship. This particular trial and this specific suffering become the immediate context in which discipleship takes place. Here are three basics to remember when the opportunity comes. Continue reading
If you have a family member or friend trapped in the throes of addiction, you know enduring pain. One of the most devastating realities of addiction is that it inflicts collateral damage on loved ones — the people trying to help the most end up being hurt the most.
Care for people struggling in addiction demands a resiliency of character and commitment that is extraordinarily difficult to sustain over time. Continue reading
There are certainly many, many illnesses that cause suffering and misery, but none like age-related dementia and its evil twin, Alzheimer’s. These conditions slowly steal memories and abilities away from a person as the plaques and tangles make their way through the brain. Otherwise active, healthy people lose their ability to function in life. They first lose their short-term memory, then their long-term memories, then their ability to accomplish the most basic of tasks. They become, in many ways, babies in an adult body. Continue reading