Persevering Through Sorrow in Prayer

Kyle Johnston

Kyle Johnston

Sorrow and despair are painful realities for all of us. Unsurprisingly, many of us often respond to deep sadness with unrealistic optimism or awkward denialism. Loss or ache can be difficult to engage with, so we seek to avoid it. I know this is true not only because of my experience as a counselor but also because it is my own tendency! We find it difficult to face the sorrows we experience. Continue reading

Grieving Broken Dreams

Lilly Park

Lilly Park

We often talk about grieving in relation to death. But a form of grieving can also occur when certain life dreams become just that—a dream. Here are a few stories with changed names which illustrate this truth. Mary is a widow after being married for over fifty years. Sally’s husband hasn’t been faithful to her for many years and now may have a form of dementia. Andrea suffered a stroke a few years ago. She used to be a successful businesswoman. For each person, there was one word in our conversation that started a flood of tears—grief. Continue reading

1st Annual Chicago Biblical Counseling Conference

Restore Hope–this is the theme of the 1st Annual Chicago Biblical Counseling Conference on April 29. Hosted by Biblical Counseling Center, this biblical counseling conference equips and encourages attendees to restore hope to the hurting in your church and community. The conference is geared toward all church leaders, from pastors and care ministers, to Sunday…

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How Gratitude Can Grow Out of Grief

Steve Viars

Steve Viars

This morning I had the opportunity to sit down with a couple from our church whose young nephew died in a car accident a few days ago. He was a Marine visiting family members around the country in-between deployments. He had just called his grandpa during a stop for gas and refreshments. Fifteen minutes later he was involved in an accident with a semi-truck and never regained consciousness.

This dear man and wife from our church were with the family in the hospital when their nephew was ushered into eternity. The grief was thick in the air as we rehearsed all they had experienced. Continue reading

A Grief Like No Other: When a Friend Loses a Child

Marie Notcheva

Marie Notcheva

So many of my friends have gone through the unspeakable agony of losing a child—whether in vitro, in infancy, or adolescence—but this is a lonely, solitary agony that even those closest to the parent cannot really shoulder. We want to enter into grief with a friend, and yet cannot fully. Empathy is the closest we can come. Continue reading

When Your Song is a Lament, Sing it with Your Whole Heart

Betty-Anne Van Rees

Betty-Anne Van Rees

Sometimes life in this broken world is overwhelming. If we didn’t find it so from time to time, there would be something wrong. We were made for a world that was wholly different than the one we live in. When this world fails us, God is pointing us to Himself and the world that will come again. It’s not that we endure ‘here’ until we arrive ‘there;’ but suffering in this world will help us learn to live ‘here’ in light of what is coming. Continue reading

Putting Your Past in Its Place

Steve Viars

Steve Viars

One of the many encouraging trends in the biblical counseling movement is an increased emphasis on the place of suffering in our model and practice. Much more is being written and said about the sadness and brokenness of life than ever before. I believe our sympathetic Savior is pleased by this development, and it has certainly given me direction as I contemplate what wise pastoral ministry sounds, looks, and feels like with people in my office who are under severe trial. Continue reading

Gospel Light Is Brightest When It Gets Darker Outside

Paul Tautges

Paul Tautges

The recent Supreme Court decision in favor of homosexual marriage is one that grieves our heart. It brings grief because we know the Scriptures are true when it says that sin is a disgrace to any nation (Proverbs 14:34). But it also grieves us because we are sinners who have experienced the transforming power of the gospel and, therefore, also know that the hearty approval of sin does not do the sinner any favors. Instead it only leads to a deeper hardening of the heart away from God. So we grieve, but we do not grieve without hope. Continue reading