Tensions in Relationships—Can Jesus Help?

Ernie Baker

Ernie Baker

I have many hurting relationships in mind. I am picturing grown men bawling buckets of tears while angry voices echo in my head. This is my life weekly. Thankfully, I am also remembering stabilized relationships even after adultery, and men and women learning to control their volume rather than using their voices as a weapon to cut or bash one another. What makes the difference? Continue reading

When Trauma Comes to Church

Judy Dabler

Judy Dabler

Believers have the Spirit of God, the Word of God, and the people of God to rely on. These three resources make the body of Christ competent to handle even the toughest matters that come its way. Paul thought so, anyway. Continue reading

Incarnating In Conflict

Eliza Jane Huie

Eliza Jane Huie

Incarnating means putting something into flesh. Jesus was God incarnate. God put on human flesh or, another way to say it, he was clothed in humanity. In a similar way, as believers, we are called to incarnate Jesus. We are to be clothed in Christ (Romans 13:14). And indeed we are (Galatians 3:27). As believers our lives become testimonies of this truth. Continue reading

Who Will Take the First Step? Godly Initiative during Nasty Conflicts

Deepak Reju

Deepak Reju

Jack and Jill fight often. He gets angry and lashes out. When he lashes out, she pulls back. She gets depressed. She doubts herself and God. (“Why would you put me in this marriage?”) They are humble enough to ask for help. That’s a fairly big deal, because too many couples who fight wait far too long to draw others in! How would you help them? Continue reading

Avoiding Assumicide

Judy Dabler

Judy Dabler

Developing intimacy in marriage requires effort. Making assumptions of one another, without first testing assumptions with questions, damages marital closeness. A commitment to keep working to learn intimacy building skills while remaining open to one’s spouse requires trusting God. Continue reading