When You Stop Talking (to God and Others)

David Robinson

David Robinson

Biblical counseling allows for very honest conversations to be fostered in a safe, truthful, gracious, and raw environment.

And as much as we enjoy the sentiments of that first sentence, many say, “I no longer have those conversations – I have stopped talking to God and I’m certainly not going to share with others. In fact, these conversations bring fear and despair. I’ve stopped talking.” Continue reading

“Confessions” of a Poor Listener

Jeff Forrey

Jeff Forrey

Today’s post is a “tongue in cheek” look at a very common problem we all have to pay attention to. We hope that you can not only snicker as you read but also be challenged to develop a key skill for relationship-building and counseling. Continue reading

The Process of Renewing the Mind (Part 1)

Jeff Forrey

Jeff Forrey

This post is part one of a two-part series on how we can guide counselees in the critical task of renewing the mind. In this first installment we are introduced to an insensitive husband and the pastor who has the privilege of helping him figure how he needed to change. Continue reading

Avoiding Assumicide

Judy Dabler

Judy Dabler

Developing intimacy in marriage requires effort. Making assumptions of one another, without first testing assumptions with questions, damages marital closeness. A commitment to keep working to learn intimacy building skills while remaining open to one’s spouse requires trusting God. Continue reading

An Open Letter to Someone Having an Affair (Part 2)

Brad Hambrick

Brad Hambrick

On Monday we began Brad Hambrick’s “open letter” to someone in the midst of an affair. In the first part of the letter, Brad stressed that the adulterer must make some decision about which intimate relationship will be pursued whole-heartedly. Ultimately, the best decision will be the one that honors God. Continue reading

An Open Letter to Someone Having an Affair

Brad Hambrick

Brad Hambrick

In the blogs for today and Wednesday, we have an opportunity to read an imaginary response to a person who is involved in adultery and yet struggles with what choices to make about both intimate relationships. With his usual sensitivity and tactic, Brad Hambrick gently challenges the adulterer to consider the realities of being stuck between a marital “rock” and adulterous “hard place.” Continue reading

Do You Keep Your Commitments – Even When It Hurts?

Jim Newheiser

Jim Newheiser

The righteous man “swears to his own hurt and does not change,” according to Psalm 15:4. A dear mentor first made me aware of this verse when I was a new believer. My friend, who was a great influence in my life, taught me that times will come when one might regret making a commitment, but that it is necessary to keep one’s word. In other words, “let your ‘yes’ be ‘yes’” (James 5:1; Matthew 5:37). Continue reading

Friday’s 5 to Live By

The BCC

The BCC

Friday's 5 To Live By

Each Friday our BCC staff links you to the top 5 biblical counseling and Christian living blog posts of the week—posts that provide robust, rich, and relevant insights for living. Continue reading