A Personal Experience of Shame… and Hope

I felt shame last week. The township sanitation worker slapped me with a written warning. It was bright orange and plastered on my garbage can for everyone to see. Apparently, he found unauthorized material in that garbage can—namely, errrr….. a bunch of concrete. I wish I could say that I wasn’t aware that heavy items […]

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Shame

Anne Dryburgh

Anne Dryburgh

“You were a mistake.” “You are good for nothing.” “You are one big disappointment.” These unkind, hurtful comments are spoken so that the person receiving them feels a sense of shame. The experience of shame comes as a result of thinking that one is a failure. In other words, the message is conveyed that there is something inherently wrong with the person and that he or she will never be able to meet the standards that others expect. This means that the person is, by nature, inadequate. Continue reading

Responding to the Shame after a Relapse into Sin

Jeff Forrey

Jeff Forrey

Jim’s wife of eight years, Rachael, was shocked to discover he’d been regularly viewing Internet porn for about two months. In all their years together, he had seemed like an upright Christian man with strong morals. After Jim had started meeting with their pastor, Paul, he’d stopped viewing Internet porn. So, Rachael and Pastor Paul were surprised and dismayed all over again when they learned Jim had gone to an adult bookstore to purchase pornographic material in print, instead!

Suppose, however, that Jim reports incredible shame over his behavior at this point. Continue reading

Teens and Body Image

Ellen Castillo

Ellen Castillo

As I approached writing this blog post, I asked my 18-year-old daughter for input. I asked her what she would like counselors, youth workers, and parents to consider on this topic. She said this: “Body image issues are common, all girls struggle with it. Some of the prettiest, thinnest, and most attractive are the ones who have the most discontent with their bodies.” Continue reading

Friday’s 5 to Live By

The BCC

The BCC

Friday's 5 To Live By

Each Friday our BCC staff links you to the top 5 biblical counseling and Christian living blog posts of the week—posts that provide robust, rich, and relevant insights for living. Continue reading

Mental Illness and the Church

Jeremy Pierre

Mental Illness and the Church

In light of the passing of Matthew Warren, who took his life, and in light of much discussion in the Christian community about suicide and mental illness, we asked one of our BCC Council Board members, Dr. Jeremy Pierre, to share his perspective. As we do, we pray for Rick and Kay Warren as they find Christ’s hope in the midst of their grief. And we pray that Dr. Pierre’s insights would be helpful to the Christian community. Continue reading