Transforming Our Friendships

Colin Mattoon

Colin Mattoon

One area of life that Christians often don’t realize they are conformed and in need of transformation is their friendships. Friendship is the most important—but least talked about—subject in the church. Every hour of every day is affected by our friendships. Continue reading

When Choosing Friends…

Kevin Carson

Kevin Carson

Wouldn’t it be nice if there was an easy way to choose friends?

You may be one of many readers who personally understand the devastation of unwise friendships. Who knows how many grandmas have quoted their own version of 1 Corinthians 15:33? “Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company ruins good morals.’” The reality is this: when you choose friends poorly, your unwise friends have a corrupting impact on you in every way. Your friends’ influence affects your character, values, communication, and behavior. Continue reading

Do You Keep Your Commitments – Even When It Hurts?

Jim Newheiser

Jim Newheiser

The righteous man “swears to his own hurt and does not change,” according to Psalm 15:4. A dear mentor first made me aware of this verse when I was a new believer. My friend, who was a great influence in my life, taught me that times will come when one might regret making a commitment, but that it is necessary to keep one’s word. In other words, “let your ‘yes’ be ‘yes’” (James 5:1; Matthew 5:37). Continue reading

Why Is Friendship So Hard?

Jonathan Holmes

Since the publication of The Company We Keep (TCWK), it’s been encouraging to see more being written on the topic of friendship here at the BCC. One of the ongoing questions I’ve received since writing TCWK is in regards to the difficulty of forming friendships in the church. Continue reading

Weekend Resource: Relationally Wise Pastoral Care

Kyle Johnston

Kyle Johnston

Do you want to build stronger relationships? Become a more valued influence in the lives of those you love and shepherd? Be able to navigate the uncomfortable tensions and inevitable conflicts that often occur in pastoral care? In short, would you like to become more skilful in your relationships? If you’re like me, the answer is a clear and unambiguous “Yes!” But while I know I need more godly skill (wisdom) in all my relationships, it’s often quite hard to translate that desire into real-life relational skills. How do I actually become a wiser counselor, a wiser pastor, and a wiser friend? Continue reading

Practice the SOG Plan

The BCC

The BCC

PDF Download: Practice the SOG Plan Kyle Johnston says, “I can personally testify that if you start practicing this simple plan in the ordinary interactions of life, you can improve your ability to know and follow God, to read and … Continue reading