Emancipation and Teenagers

Ellen Castillo

Ellen Castillo

A 15-year-old counselee (“Jen”) informed me that she had no intention of cooperating with counseling unless I would help her to emancipate. I did not agree with her ultimatum, nor did I agree that she should pursue emancipation, but I did agree to research the ins and outs of emancipation. This was not the first teen I have counseled who has mentioned wishing they could emancipate, but this was the first one who was completely serious about it. I needed to educate myself, and so the two of us sat side by side at the computer and looked up the California legal requirements to emancipate. Continue reading

Counseling Parents about Smart Rules for Smartphones (And All Social Media)

Garrett Higbee

Garrett Higbee

Smartphones are everywhere and it is common to see very young kids playing on a tablet or to see older kids texting at every intersection. As counselors or parents, how do we navigate the inevitable conversations, develop reasonable rules, and lay down age-appropriate guidelines regarding smartphones? I hope to lay out some ways you can help those you counsel be smart about smartphones and other social media.  Continue reading

How is Counseling Like Parenting?

Sean Gould

Sean Gould

I am often reminded of God’s grace and love for me when I spend time with my 5-year-old daughter, Jane. There are many blessings from God wrapped up in her endless supply of energy and play. One of these that can often be overlooked is my own sanctification. God in his kindness has, in one way, given me a daughter to care for and shepherd in order that I might grow in holiness. Continue reading

Happy Father’s Day from IBCD

Father’s Day is this Sunday, June 18. We wanted to remind our supporters that if you do your shopping at smile.amazon.com, Amazon will donate to IBCD. Simple click the address above to access Amazon through IBCD’s unique charity link. We also wanted to highlight some resources from our library for dads, especially Milton Vincent’s great audio…

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Teen Discipline vs. Punishment

Ellen Castillo

Ellen Castillo

Parents, you want me to change your child’s behavior. This is why you have brought her to counseling. She is driving you nuts with her meltdowns and defiance. You tell me that she is needy, attention-seeking, and unwilling to trust God. You are at your wit’s end, having tried every form of punishment you can think of. And still, there is no change. Continue reading