Grieving Broken Dreams

Lilly Park

Lilly Park

We often talk about grieving in relation to death. But a form of grieving can also occur when certain life dreams become just that—a dream. Here are a few stories with changed names which illustrate this truth. Mary is a widow after being married for over fifty years. Sally’s husband hasn’t been faithful to her for many years and now may have a form of dementia. Andrea suffered a stroke a few years ago. She used to be a successful businesswoman. For each person, there was one word in our conversation that started a flood of tears—grief. Continue reading

Emotions: Engaging the Experiences of Our Hearts – CCEF National Conference

The BCC

The BCC

To be Christian is to experience joy and sadness, grief and hope, love and hate, just as Jesus did. Our emotions make us fully human because without them we cannot see the world as God does. They are the difference between life in living reds, greens, and blues and life in black and white! But how do we rightly use this gift? How do we obey Scripture’s call to share our whole hearts honestly before the face of God, without giving into the temptation to indulge or suppress our emotions? That will be the topic of the Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation’s national conference this year. Here is what you can expect at the conference and pre-conference. Continue reading

How Gratitude Can Grow Out of Grief

Steve Viars

Steve Viars

This morning I had the opportunity to sit down with a couple from our church whose young nephew died in a car accident a few days ago. He was a Marine visiting family members around the country in-between deployments. He had just called his grandpa during a stop for gas and refreshments. Fifteen minutes later he was involved in an accident with a semi-truck and never regained consciousness.

This dear man and wife from our church were with the family in the hospital when their nephew was ushered into eternity. The grief was thick in the air as we rehearsed all they had experienced. Continue reading

A Grief Like No Other: When a Friend Loses a Child

Marie Notcheva

Marie Notcheva

So many of my friends have gone through the unspeakable agony of losing a child—whether in vitro, in infancy, or adolescence—but this is a lonely, solitary agony that even those closest to the parent cannot really shoulder. We want to enter into grief with a friend, and yet cannot fully. Empathy is the closest we can come. Continue reading

When Your Song is a Lament, Sing it with Your Whole Heart

Betty-Anne Van Rees

Betty-Anne Van Rees

Sometimes life in this broken world is overwhelming. If we didn’t find it so from time to time, there would be something wrong. We were made for a world that was wholly different than the one we live in. When this world fails us, God is pointing us to Himself and the world that will come again. It’s not that we endure ‘here’ until we arrive ‘there;’ but suffering in this world will help us learn to live ‘here’ in light of what is coming. Continue reading

Friday’s 5 to Live By

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The BCC

Friday's 5 To Live By

Each Friday our BCC staff links you to the top 5 biblical counseling and Christian living blog posts of the week—posts that provide robust, rich, and relevant insights for living. Continue reading

Friday’s 5 to Live By

The BCC

The BCC

Friday's 5 To Live By

Each Friday our BCC staff links you to the top 5 biblical counseling and Christian living blog posts of the week—posts that provide robust, rich, and relevant insights for living. Continue reading

Putting Your Past in Its Place

Steve Viars

Steve Viars

One of the many encouraging trends in the biblical counseling movement is an increased emphasis on the place of suffering in our model and practice. Much more is being written and said about the sadness and brokenness of life than ever before. I believe our sympathetic Savior is pleased by this development, and it has certainly given me direction as I contemplate what wise pastoral ministry sounds, looks, and feels like with people in my office who are under severe trial. Continue reading

Gospel Light Is Brightest When It Gets Darker Outside

Paul Tautges

Paul Tautges

The recent Supreme Court decision in favor of homosexual marriage is one that grieves our heart. It brings grief because we know the Scriptures are true when it says that sin is a disgrace to any nation (Proverbs 14:34). But it also grieves us because we are sinners who have experienced the transforming power of the gospel and, therefore, also know that the hearty approval of sin does not do the sinner any favors. Instead it only leads to a deeper hardening of the heart away from God. So we grieve, but we do not grieve without hope. Continue reading

Grief: Identity or Emotion

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The BCC

I work with people who are suffering.  In fact, each of the people with whom I have worked have experienced some level of suffering.  Their marriage may be in shambles.  They may struggle with guilt.  There may be others who … Continue reading