“How could he?” It was my counselee’s constant refrain. Her husband’s sins were horrible, and though she had known about them for nearly a year now, the shock of it all was still strong. Some friends and family were annoyed at the repeated phrase and insisted she needed to get over it by now. But when you’ve suffered trauma, the repeated words are a significant indicator of effort. Repetition in the life of a trauma victim is an effort in finding meaning. Meaning is found beyond trauma in the person and work of Christ. Continue reading
Several years ago, someone told me the story of a young couple in another city. The wife, in her early 30’s, was informed that she had breast cancer. The evening before her mastectomy her husband came by her hospital room. He did not touch her. He simply said, “I cannot live with a breastless woman. I will be filing for a divorce.” When I was told this tragic story, I questioned it. My informant assured me that it was a true story.
What a contrast to my friends Jim and Jane (not their real names) who are walking through a very difficult time with Jane suffering from a malignant brain tumor. Continue reading
Over the years, I have had numerous counselees who have suffered from being sexually abused during their childhood. This is in my past as well. Understandably, the effects have been devastating. In most instances the abuse was done by someone the counselee knew and trusted. This fact adds to the hurt, pain, confusion, and feelings of betrayal. Continue reading
DOMESTIC ABUSE: Here’s wisdom on counseling victims. Guest writer Joshua Waulk, director of Baylight Counseling, says domestic abuse, in all forms, is anti-gospel and anti-Christ. His article appeared first here and is used with permission. Domestic abuse, in all forms, represents a gross departure from how Scripture portrays biblical marriage, including the example of self-sacrificial…
It’s humbling to admit, but I almost didn’t make it to my first biblical counseling classes because of anxiety. What began as apprehensiveness about the quality of my work and my classroom performance morphed into full-blown anxiety about how I could possibly be a biblical counselor if fear of man so gripped my heart. Little did I know that God would use my sin as the context for revealing the gracious ways He uses others in the fight for holiness. Continue reading
Many people are surprised, if not shocked, at how comforting Luther was in his writings. They picture Luther as the bold Reformer. These 15 quotes remind us that alongside Luther’s boldness was another side—the tender pastoral shepherd.
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Believers have the Spirit of God, the Word of God, and the people of God to rely on. These three resources make the body of Christ competent to handle even the toughest matters that come its way. Paul thought so, anyway. Continue reading
In the Christian life, suffering has a purpose for our good and God’s glory (Romans 8:28). The minister of God’s Word must especially embrace this truth as it will be the fuel of their ministry. Paul found this to be the case for his own ministry. The book of 2 Corinthians is a letter about Paul’s ministry in light of the spiritual mugging of the Corinthian church by false teachers. Continue reading
Here is an interview with Pam Gannon who co-authored In the Aftermath (with Beverly Moore). We hope you will find their book helpful. Continue reading
Injustice is maddening. By this, I mean we usually become intensely angry when we are confronted by it and the suffering experienced by the victims.
This past week I have had numerous conversations with people who were struggling to deal with their angry hearts in the face of injustice. Continue reading
Institute for Biblical Counseling & Discipleship
The Fear of the Lord is the Beginning of Counseling