Humility

Andrea Lee

Andrea Lee

It’s humbling to admit, but I almost didn’t make it to my first biblical counseling classes because of anxiety. What began as apprehensiveness about the quality of my work and my classroom performance morphed into full-blown anxiety about how I could possibly be a biblical counselor if fear of man so gripped my heart. Little did I know that God would use my sin as the context for revealing the gracious ways He uses others in the fight for holiness. Continue reading

Manipulative Repentance

Brad Hambrick

Brad Hambrick

The recognition that there are healthy and unhealthy forms of repentance is both common sense and biblical (2 Corinthians 7:8-13). On this everyone agrees; secular and sacred. The difficulty is in discerning disingenuous repentance. Mature and discerning people can witness the same conversation and walk away with distinctly different impressions about whether a given expression of remorse represents genuine repentance, sorrow for being caught, or a tactic to gain relational leverage.

In this post, I hope to accomplish two things. First, I will attempt to clarify two common misperceptions about manipulation. Second, I will discuss a series of phrases commonly used in repentance which can be red flags that the remorse being expressed will not lead to healthy relational restoration. Continue reading

Lamentable Confessions

Judy Dabler

Judy Dabler

Confessions are usually healing for both the offended and the offender. Most of the time, confessions are heartfelt expressions of the repentance that God has granted. A healing confession is redemptive in that it has the power to “buy back” … Continue reading

After Relationships Shatter

Judy Dabler

Judy Dabler

Some conflicts are so egregious, believers can actually find reconciliation and forgiveness a distasteful calling. When a professing believer has left a community and caused a great deal of harm and has lived unrepentant for a long time, his repentance and return is often met with anything but a joyful heart. Yet, Scripture guides the church in how to respond in this type of difficult situation. Continue reading

Understanding Sorrow and Genuine Repentance

The BCC

The BCC

Learn the difference between worldly sorrow and Godly sorrow and how they relate to true repentance. Note: This resource originally appeared on the Expository Counseling Center website. You can view the original resource here.

Have You Been Burned By A NANC Counselor?

Heath Lambert

Heath Lambert

Have You Been Burned By A Nanc Counselor

Perhaps you are like a lot of people I have talked to since being asked to become the executive director of the National Association of Nouthetic Counselors (NANC) (Now: ACBC: Association of Certified Biblical Counselors). I’ve heard stories of people who have friends, relatives, and acquaintances with terrible things to say about NANC counselors. I want to explain to you why I agreed to lead an organization with some counselors that, apparently, have such a terrible reputation. In particular I have five things I’d like to say to anyone who’s been burned by a NANC counselor. Continue reading