The Instant Gratification Trap in Counseling, Part 2

Shannon Kay McCoy

Shannon Kay McCoy

Delayed gratification does not come easily for most people. It is choosing to resist present comfort for long-term pleasure. The Christian life is a life of deferred gratification. Jesus teaches us to not store up treasures on earth, but to store up treasures in heaven (Matt. 6:19-21). Continue reading

The Instant Gratification Trap in Counseling, Part 1

Shannon Kay McCoy

Shannon Kay McCoy

We are born with a desire to gratify ourselves. We are driven by innate desires for food, water, sleep, shelter, fellowship, and communication. This is how civilization develops and progresses. Incredible inventions were created that have made life easier, such as the washing machine and the telephone. Instant gratification is not a new phenomenon. However, our expectation of “instant” is faster than ever. Continue reading

Fear of Failure

Shannon Kay McCoy

Shannon Kay McCoy

The fear of failure is rooted in pride. It is self-worship. Three root causes of this phobia are people-pleasing, perfectionism and pessimism. To overcome the fear of failure, one must choose to trust in God, boast in God and hope in God. Continue reading

5 Foundational Spiritual Disciplines of Biblical Counselors

Shannon Kay McCoy

Shannon Kay McCoy

Biblical counselors are unique gifts to the church who have a passion to understand who God is and how He works in our lives. However, biblical counselors are only as useful as their growing relationship with the Lord. In order to effectively counsel others biblically, the biblical counselor must possess at least five foundational spiritual disciplines: dependence on the Holy Spirit, dependence on praying, dependence on God’s Word, dependence on worship, and dependence on church fellowship. Continue reading

Are Your Counselees God-Fearing Christians?

Shannon Kay McCoy

Shannon Kay McCoy

As counselors, our minds are set to focus on the how to. Our counselees want to know how to fix their problems. We know that their problems cannot be fixed if they are being controlled by them. Our goal is to teach our counselees the fear of the Lord so that their problems will become small and their God will become bigger. Continue reading

Motivated by Love

Shannon Kay McCoy

Shannon Kay McCoy

Biblical Counseling and Women’s Issues--Motivated by Love

You’re reading Part Five of a multi-part Grace & Truth blog mini-series on Biblical Counseling and Women’s Issues. Men—you’d be wise to read these too—to learn more about a biblical understanding of women and about biblical women’s ministry. Today’s post is from Shannon Kay McCoy entitled Motivated by Love. Continue reading

Overcoming a Critical Spirit

Shannon Kay McCoy

Shannon Kay McCoy

If we are honest, most of us have uttered words that were not edifying. Due to our sin nature, it is a battle to fight against a critical spirit. For some of us, it has become a life-dominating sin which is spiritually damaging. The hope is that a critical spirit can be overcome when we stop feeding our flesh and begin to feed our spirits in Jesus Christ. Continue reading

Complaining: Rewriting the Story God Is Writing

Shannon Kay McCoy

Shannon Kay McCoy

Complaining - Rewriting the Story God Is Writing

Complaining has become a way of life or a part of our personalities. When we feel angst about our life circumstances, we begin to grumble in our hearts only to unleash the negative venom from our tongues. This sin can consume us and stunt our life story. The only way to overcome sinful complaining is to cultivate joyful contentment in Christ. Continue reading

Cultivating Gospel-Centered Friendships

Shannon Kay McCoy

Shannon Kay McCoy

Cultivating Gospel-Centered Friendships

God gives the gift of friendships. The gospel is the power of God that transforms our relationships into gospel-centered friendships. Christians are to glorify God as we connect with others. We are to demonstrate grace, mercy, compassion, love and forgiveness in relationships. Friendships must be cultivated by being saturated with the gospel of Jesus Christ. Continue reading

Dealing with Holiday Loneliness

Shannon Kay McCoy

Shannon Kay McCoy

Dealing with Holiday Loneliness

The holidays are special times of the year set aside for human connectedness with family and friends. When there is relational disconnection, however, holiday loneliness emerges. This overwhelming feeling of loneliness can produce self-pity, bitterness, and depression. God has a remedy for the sorrow of loneliness that is found only in the gospel of Jesus Christ. Continue reading