Top Ten Posts of All Time – #3

Luke Gilkerson

One of the tasks of a good friend or accountability partner to someone who is entrenched in pornography is to help them understand their own heart. Why do they run to porn again and again? Solomon reminds us that “The purpose in a man’s heart is like deep water” (we often can’t see our own motivations) “but a man of understanding will draw it out” (Proverbs 20:5, parenthesis added). A wise friend helps to draw out of others the deeper motivations they are unable or unwilling to see in themselves. Continue reading

The Missing Ingredient for Sexual Purity

Luke Gilkerson

Purity is a funny word. It is a word that stresses the absence of something—the absence of some kind of contamination. In my mid-20s, this was the heart and soul of my pursuit as a young man: flee from porn and lust and hope it isn’t fast enough to catch me. Continue reading

4 Approaches to the Use of the Label “Porn Addiction”

Luke Gilkerson

4 Approaches to the Use of the Label Porn Addiction

For the biblical counselor—indeed, for any counselor—words matter. How we label a problem impacts how we approach it. And since pornography use is at an all-time high—and by some estimations, even in the church—it remains a critical question for biblical counselors today: Should I encourage others to label their problem an “addiction” and if so, what does that mean? Continue reading