Tensions in Relationships—Can Jesus Help?

Ernie Baker

Ernie Baker

I have many hurting relationships in mind. I am picturing grown men bawling buckets of tears while angry voices echo in my head. This is my life weekly. Thankfully, I am also remembering stabilized relationships even after adultery, and men and women learning to control their volume rather than using their voices as a weapon to cut or bash one another. What makes the difference? Continue reading

The Beauty of Mediation as a Ministry Tool

Ernie Baker

Ernie Baker

I want to be a Christ-like counselor, don’t you? Well, a chief characteristic of our Lord’s ministry was that he was a reconciler of others to his Father. He served as an intermediary who was willing to sacrifice so that our chief relationship could be made right. Wouldn’t it make sense that if we serve as intermediaries to help others get right with one another that we are being like our Savior? Continue reading

The Healing Power of Forgiveness

Ernie Baker

Ernie Baker

Humans have a disease that eats away at the soul and relationships. It is a cankerous cancer that leads to shame and brokenness, and as it consumes, it perforates our relationships with God and others. Of course this disease, this cancer, is sin. Is there a soothing medicine that brings healing? Continue reading

Pre-Premarital Counseling

Ernie Baker

Ernie Baker

In this post and the next, we introduce you to a new resource by Dr. Ernie Baker. In his book Marry Wisely, Marry Well, he guides readers through the “minefield” of establishing a firm—a biblical—foundation for eventually getting married. As one reviewer insightful put it, this book is not merely “premarital counseling”; it is “pre-premarital counseling.” We hope you are encouraged by these recommendations and the YouTube clip by Ernie to check out this resource. Continue reading

Where’s Your Hope? (Part 2)

Ernie Baker

Ernie Baker

This post continues the topic from Dr. Baker’s last post. On Monday he focused on the nature of true hope. Today he helps us with diagnostic questions that put a spotlight on the true and false hopes counselees might bring with them into our offices. Continue reading

Where’s Your Hope?

Ernie Baker

Ernie Baker

The next two posts will highlight the important hope as a basic characteristic of the Christian life. Dr. Baker also alerts us to the problem of false hopes that actually distract us from a life energized by expectant worship. Today, he focuses on the basic question: What is “hope” in the Bible? Continue reading

Endeavoring to Keep the Unity of the Spirit

Ernie Baker

Ernie Baker

Endeavoring to Keep the Unity of the Spirit

You’re reading Part 1 of a BCC Grace & Truth blog mini-series on our recent Biblical Counseling Coalition Leadership Retreat. Each year, our entire BCC Board of Directors and Council Board convene for three days of mutual iron-sharpening. Our theme this year focused on building mutually respectful relationships within the biblical counseling movement and building missionally robust relationships outside the biblical counseling movement.
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