Teens and Counseling Homework

Ellen Castillo

Ellen Castillo

One of the most common questions I am asked about counseling teens is “what resources do you use for homework?” There are many options for homework assignments for teens, but I am focusing on just one in this article: books. There are a handful of good teen resources right now that are gospel-rich and applicable to biblical counseling, mentoring, and discipleship with teenagers. Continue reading

Emancipation and Teenagers

Ellen Castillo

Ellen Castillo

A 15-year-old counselee (“Jen”) informed me that she had no intention of cooperating with counseling unless I would help her to emancipate. I did not agree with her ultimatum, nor did I agree that she should pursue emancipation, but I did agree to research the ins and outs of emancipation. This was not the first teen I have counseled who has mentioned wishing they could emancipate, but this was the first one who was completely serious about it. I needed to educate myself, and so the two of us sat side by side at the computer and looked up the California legal requirements to emancipate. Continue reading

Teen Discipline vs. Punishment

Ellen Castillo

Ellen Castillo

Parents, you want me to change your child’s behavior. This is why you have brought her to counseling. She is driving you nuts with her meltdowns and defiance. You tell me that she is needy, attention-seeking, and unwilling to trust God. You are at your wit’s end, having tried every form of punishment you can think of. And still, there is no change. Continue reading

Counseling the Resistant Teen

Ellen Castillo

Ellen Castillo

In order to be prepared to encounter a resistant teen, it is helpful to gather data from the parents before you begin meeting with the teen. It takes some digging into their history in order to get an overall view of the teens. Teens are often unreliable historians because of their limited perspective and resistance to counseling. Continue reading

Creativity in Counseling Youth

Ellen Castillo

Ellen Castillo

In biblical counseling we often bring God’s attributes to bear on our counselees’ struggles. For example, God is most certainly an intelligent, creative artist. By making us in his image, God has given us many creative abilities. He has given us abilities to produce paintings, sculptures, music, writings, buildings, and more. We can also utilize creativity in biblical counseling, especially with young counselees who do not respond well to a conventional style of counseling. Creativity in counseling can be used as a means to open up discussion on pertinent topics as we seek to apply biblical solutions. Continue reading