Biblical Discipling: Every Member as a Faithful Discipler

March 18, 2014


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False Assumptions about Professional Help

  • A common false assumption that Christians make about professional help.
  • Story about young lady who was struggling. 
  • The congregation has a responsibility to disciple and care for one another with God’s Word.
  • The “one another” passages — John 13:34-35; Romans 12:10; 13:18; 15:7, 14; Ephesians 4:2, 32; 1 Thessalonians 5:11.
  • The church should be the normative place for Christian relationships and Christian discipleship/counseling.
  • Your church covenant articulates your commitment to one another. 
  • A culture of discipleship. 
  • You are on the front lines!  The Battle analogy. 

Obstacles to Discipling

  • We are too busy.  
  • We just don’t see it as all that important.  
  • We prefer to exist with masks when we are at church.  
  • We don’t want to get involved in the mess.   
  • We’re too quick to pass off problems to pastors or counselors. 

I Can’t Do This!  I’m Not Equipped, Skilled or Ready!

Typical Response:  “I can’t do this.  I don’t know what to do.  I don’t know how to help.  I have no skills in this area.”

Example: Marital conflict.

Turning to Scripture: 

  • Where is your focus?  James 4:1-2.
  • How do you fight?  Prov 15:1; 16:21.
  • Lacking confidence?

When Do We Seek Out Others?

What I am NOT saying is:

  • that you have to sort through other people’s problems on your own;
  • that you, as a member, have to deal with this without any help;
  • that the pastors don’t really care about counseling the members;
  • that the pastors expect you, the members, to fix others peoples problems.  

Your pastors/staff want to help!

When do you turn to a pastor in the midst of helping someone else with their problems? 

  • If you know the person’s problem is significant and that no one (or really very few folks) knows about it, you can either encourage them to come speak with a pastor or get permission to talk with a pastor on their behalf.
  • If you are feeling overwhelmed with the problem and don’t know how to handle it.
  • If you don’t know where to go in Scripture or how to apply Scripture to this particular problem. 
  • If you scared that this person is going to do physical or spiritual harm to themselves or others and you feel you need help slowing them down.
  • If you feel like someone is out of control with their sin. 
  • If you want guidance on how to help someone else.