So You Want to Get Engaged?

July 23, 2012


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We know how to “do” weddings. We work at a church filled with a lot of 20 and 30-year-olds. Every year we marry off about 25 to 30 couples. You might say we are a wedding factory. After all, when you get lots of young people in a church building for worship and fellowship, and give them a chance to talk and get to know one another…well, eventually they start pairing off, marrying, and having children. That’s just the way life works.

Consequently, as pastors, we talk to a lot of couples about how to wisely and thoughtfully get engaged. It’s a daily conversation. Sometimes hourly.

To that end, we’ve written this booklet to help folks who are headed towards engagement. What things do you want to consider before you put a ring on her finger? “Before” is an important word. Too many Christian couples leave the really important conversations until after engagement, or even, after marriage.

In this short booklet, we’ve included four things that we hope will be helpful to you: (1) thoughts on making the decision to get married; (2) popular myths that hurt the decision-making process; (3) things to talk about as you try to make the decision; and (4) meeting the parents as a part of making the big decision.

Click here to download the full PDF text of this resource.