I go to a church packed full of 20 and 30-year-olds. Consequently, our pastoral staff all-too-often answer the questions like, “Who should I marry?” “How will I know if he is the one?” “Can our relationship go the distance?” It’s not an easy conversation, especially since Christians buy into the secular dating culture and have adopted a lot of the myths about making a decision to get married.
To that end, I’ve written a short booklet with a good friend (Scott Croft) to help Christians sort through what it takes to get engaged. I call this The Fourth Quarter Dating Document. You are coming to the end of the game, the clock is ticking, and (as the guy) you are asking yourself, “What else do we need to talk about or do before I can put the ring on her finger?”
The booklet is broken down into four sections:
1. Thoughts on making the decision to get married.
2. Popular myths that hurt the decision-making process.
3. Things to talk about as you try to make the decision.
4. Meeting the parents as a part of making the big decision.
If you are discipling a couple thinking about possible engagement, ask them to read this before you meet up next. If you are dating and not sure what to talk about or how to make the decision, we hope this will serve both boyfriends and girlfriends as they pursue engagement and marriage.
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