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Questions for Marital Couples Before the Initial Session

November 23, 2011

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Instructions:  One of the strategies we like to employ is asking couples to answer a series of questions before the initial session.   That allows the counselor to do some data collection before the couple comes for the first meeting, and helps to prepare the counselor for what they might be facing.   We ask them to email their answer to the counselor a day or two before the first session. 

Questions for the Husband

1.  What do you see as the problems in the marriage right now?  Give me a problem list.

2.  Where do you see your sin contributing to the problems in the marriage?  This is a chance to take ownership of your sins.

3.  Where do you see ways in which you need to grow in loving your wife and living sacrificially towards her?

4.  Is there any hope for the marriage?  If so, describe it. 

Please note:  I will NOT be giving this or showing this to your spouse, though at some point we might choose to discuss some of these things.  So please be brutally honest.

Questions for the Wife

1.  What do you see as the problems in the marriage right now?  Give me a problem list. 

2.  Where do you see your sin contributing to the problems in the marriage?  This is a chance to take ownership of your sins. 

3.  Where do you see ways in which you need to grow in loving your husband and living sacrificially towards him?  

4.  Is there any hope for the marriage?  If so, describe it. 

Please note:  I will NOT be giving this or showing this to your spouse, though at some point we might choose to discuss some of these things.  So please be brutally honest.